On January 2nd, our little beta fish passed away.
Dubbed "Mr. Fish" by my daughter when we first got him a few years ago, Mr. Fish quickly became a fixture in our home. Always one to offer a little bit of color to brighten our day, he was a blue and deep red hue, and happy to show off his graceful swimming abilities whenever we'd walk by his tank.
Mr. Fish in 2021.
As far kids learning how to care for a pet goes, fish are up there on the list. For over three years, Mr. Fish offered an excellent way to teach my daughter the basics about life and, here recently, about death. He offered us a way to teach her how to care for a pet, to help keep his tank clean, and to only give him a few pellets of food a day so he didn't get a tummy ache. And over the course of the holidays, he offered an opportunity to explain to her what happens when a person (or pet) grows old, gets sick, and passes away.
Just before the holidays, Mr. Fish stopped swimming around so much. After Christmas was over, he started to lose his vibrant colors. When it was time for us to pack for our New Year's trip, he was almost gray in certain areas, and he had stopped eating. My daughter noticed these things with me, and I explained to her what was happening, and that it meant that Mr. Fish may soon go to Heaven. When we left for our New Year's trip, we dropped his 7-day feeder into his tank, but he didn't seem to notice. I was certain when we returned home on New Year's Day, that he would be gone.
But he wasn't! When we returned, he was even grayer than before, but would still move slightly when we tapped the tank. It was as if he had waited until we got back, because sometime in the night, he passed away.
My daughter sweetly observing Mr. Fish's body.
My daughter is only 5, and she went through every stage of grief as is appropriate for her age. She expressed sadness over his death, that she missed him, and also her hope of getting a new fish one day soon. I let her observe his body, which offered a wonderful opportunity for me to explain how we, and animals, get a new body when we go to Heaven. That Mr. Fish has a new and better body in Heaven, and that he is not in this old body he left on earth.
She understood as a 5-year-old does. I explained that we bury the old body, so that it doesn't start to stink, and so that it can help to grow the flowers. So we did. She helped to pick the spot in the backyard for him, as well as some pretty little stones to place on top of his grave. We buried him and said a little prayer, all with a cheerful heart, and that was that.
Rest in peace, Mr. Fish, and thank you for the wonderful life lessons!
We are trying something new this year : )
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This is one way you can make a difference for others this season, while also finding a little bit of light in the midst of sorrow. Thank you for making a difference in Jesus' name!
Have you heard of the AI (artificial intelligence) takeover?
In recent years, whispers of AI - and its immeasurable potential - have been steadily becoming louder. As of 2023, AI has seemingly taken over the Internet and indeed the whole world. It's generally considered be a good technological innovation; AI can reduce workloads, promote efficiency in business, and perform tasks with lightning speed, often for little to no investment, or even error. It can be used for fun, too, just check out all the new apps that have come out this year utilizing it. However, there are some downsides to the takeover of AI.
As a eulogy writer, one of the most glaring downsides is this: the lack of real human connection. In a time of mourning, over the loss of someone you deeply loved, the human touch is still desperately needed. AI is not sentient in this way (not yet, anyway), and a robot can't really understand what you are feeling.
I do appreciate how accessible AI is, to everyone. It's no secret that AI can literally write a one-of-a-kind speech for you, using just a few prompts. That includes a eulogy. There's no denying that this can be a wonderful thing for so many people, and if you are one of them, more power to you! I believe that every loved one deserves a quality eulogy, and I love to see it happen, even if it's with help from AI. As I continue to learn more about this application and the many positive ways it can be utilized, also know that I am still here for you with any questions you may have concerning your speech.
Keeping that in mind, I do want to assure you that Eulogies by Aubrey has never, and will never, use AI in this way. Every single eulogy order I receive is responded to and written by my own hand, using the beautiful thoughts you provide through my online eulogy order form (found here). And every single email or message you send to me, is thoughtfully responded by myself as quickly as possible. I may never be as quick or expedient as a robot, but I promise you, my heart is real : )
Do you have any further thoughts regarding AI? In what ways has it changed or improved the way you live, work, and play? Leave your thoughts in a comment below.
As Pride Month comes to an end, know that my support for you does not.
Let's make something crystal clear: Eulogies by Aubrey is inclusive to families of all beliefs and walks of life. This includes the LGBTQ+ community.
It is never my job to judge people, or their loved ones, especially during times of grief. It my job to love others, and to serve those who place their trust in me and my business with the utmost dignity and respect. If you are LGBTQ+, including non-binary or transgender, or if the loved one whom you are grieving was, you are safe to be honest and open here. I promise.
Considering this, I have updated the questionnaire on my Order Page to reflect the need for pronouns, as opposed to requesting gender (which I did in order to get a loved one's pronouns right anyway, while writing). Please feel free to comment below with any other ideas you have for improving my site to make it more welcoming for all.
Love, Aubrey 🏳️🌈
"If you are not personally free to be yourself in that most important of all human activities...the expression of love...then life itself loses its meaning."