When Grief Knows No Words
Most of us have been there.
You lose someone who is very close to you, someone you cared for very much and who cared for you. You can barely make it out of bed, barely function at all the jobs you have to accomplish. The world keeps going as if nothing happened, and mercilessly insists that you still keep up. You have trouble even breathing when you realize, over and over, that you will never see this person again, at least not for a long while. Your eyes are puffy from tears that seem to never stop flowing.
Your heart feels literally heavy in your chest.
These are times when, as is often said, grief knows no words.
The irony of it is, often times the person who is closest to the one who has passed away, is the person asked to provide the eulogy for the funeral service. In most cases, a person dies, has their services and final disposition within just one week of the passing. This one left behind who has barely begun to even process what has just happened, is tasked with writing a lengthy reading to be given in front of other grieving family and friends. They are obligated to think objectively, to dig up memories featuring their loved one (probably some they haven’t thought about in years) and try to put everything into proper sequence in the hope of appropriately representing their loved one and the life they lived.
Even great writers would have trouble doing that.
There is nothing wrong with asking for help. Within the realm of funeral service, there are many people available and standing by to offer you any assistance you may need. The funeral director is not just a salesperson… he or she is a counselor. The pastor is not just repeating tired old verses and prayers…they have been there. The funeral home apprentice…well, she doesn’t have all the answers yet, but she sure knows who to ask to get them for you :)
Eulogies by Aubrey is one of those who is standing by 24/7 to offer you support should you ever need it. We too have been there, and when your grief knows no words, we will be right here to create your words for you.
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