Hey everybody, this is Aubrey with eulogiesbyaubrey.com. In my last video, my first ever vlog, I said that in my next vlog I was going to be talking a little bit about my career history, jobs that I've held, qualifications in writing and the funeral industry, and all that kind of stuff. So that if you're considering hiring somebody - hiring me - to help you with your eulogy then you would have that information to help you make a decision on whether or not you want to hire me. I think that's important that you have that information if you're considering seeking assistance with your...[Gracie the Cat interjection]. Oh hi! Hi Gracie. This is my cat Gracie. She's 18 (in human years!) She kind of lives in my room.
Okay. So let's begin. I'm going to be begin back in 2012 when I first started professionally writing. 2012-2014 I worked for a company near to where I was living in Texas called FYI. They're in Grand Prairie. I did TV guide descriptions, editing TV guide online platforms, that kind of thing. It was pretty interesting; I really enjoyed that while I did that. That was 2012-2014.
In 2014 I left to join an attorney's office, where I learned a lot about SEO - I'd never heard of it before - (search engine optimization) which focuses on key words and that kind of stuff to help websites gain in popularity in search engines, specifically in Google. The attorney's office? He dealt in traffic tickets - kinda boring. But I did that for 2 years.
While I was working there, I married my husband Austin. That was in 2015. He needed to finish college; he was almost done. He had one class left that he needed to finish, so we got him through that last class and he graduated. After that, I said, I want to fulfill my dream of going to mortuary school and graduating from mortuary school. At that time, we finally had the means for me to be able to do that - or I did, because he was able to support me while I went to school. So before I started college in the summer of 2016, I got my first-ever job at a funeral home in Arlington, where we were living at the time.
I really liked it. It was for a corporate funeral home - SCI, Service Corporation International. I had no idea about any corporation stuff or the difference between corporations and family-owned funeral homes and all the differences there, but I sure did learn fast the differences. I enjoyed corporate work. It was very competitive...I didn't like that part of it.
I will say, in the Summer of 2016, I did start at the Dallas Institute of Funeral Service. When I was hired at the corporate funeral home, I was hired under the promise, I guess, that I was going to get to transfer to the care center (at the time I wanted to get into embalming). I didn't ever really want to be a funeral director - directress. I wanted to work at the care center and help with the embalmings and that kind of thing. Long story short, the management that hired me was not the management that let me go. In the corporate world, management turns over fairly quickly. Oh Gracie [Gracie the Cat interjection] Hi Gracie.
Long story short, SCI and other corporate funeral industries are for some people and not for others. I thought they were for me until they let me go. Long story short, if you have a family member who has passed away, and you're going to be turning to a Dignity provider, and SCI funeral home, I will say that they do treat their families very, very well. They have very high standards for how their employees are required to treat their families [toddler making noise in background] My husband is watching my daughter...she wants to come in here, but she can't 'cause Mommy's working!
Long story short, in September of 2016 after I started mortuary school, I was let go from that funeral home because they needed somebody who was able to work the hours that I wasn't able to work anymore because I started going to mortuary school. So they had to hire another "apprentice" as they're called in the industry. And I was left to put all my attention on mortuary school at the Dallas Institute of Funeral Service.
In October of 2016, I decided that I wanted to try and get back into a funeral home. This time, I chose a family-owned funeral home in Waxahachie, Texas, which is about 20-25 minutes south of Dallas. I will say that working in a family-run funeral home in a small town is a lot of work. It's 24-hour on-call. Long story short, I wasn't able to place the attention and hours that I needed at that job, while at the same time all the studying that goes into mortuary school. All the hours of studying that you need to make good grades and pass mortuary school. So I worked there probably a month at the most, and I had to leave because it was just too much. I remember one night I was up there till four in the morning working, and then I had to drive back to Arlington. It was getting to be too much, so that was the end of that.
After that, I focused only on mortuary school, and in the September the following year, September 2017 (at DIFS it was an accelerated program - a blessing and a curse) I graduated and I was so happy.
I wanted to get back into funeral service. Back then, I really wanted to be an embalmer like I said. I've learned a lot of stuff since then and I've since changed my mind about that. But yeah, I got back into SCI, corporate funeral service to work at their care center in Arlington, where again we were living at the time (we're in Fort Worth now). I did that from October to December of 2017. [Gracie the Cat interjection] This girl hears me talking and just wants to be petted. I have three other cats, by the way. I just got them. But Gracie's the oldest, so she lives in our room now for the most part. Which is just fine with her because she can't stand other cats.
So long, long, long story short, without going into too many details, my husband and I decided to try and start our family. I know there's lots of studies that say that you can carry out embalming safely while pregnant, but I didn't want to risk anything like that. Formaldehyde, heavy lifting, all different kinds of diseases and stuff like that that you're around when you're handling decedents. So I quit my job at the care center, I got pregnant, and had my daughter in September of 2018.
In March of 2019, I wanted to keep my foot in the funeral industry, but I didn't want to leave [the house] because I had my baby at home. I wanted to work at home somehow. So I put two and two together...I put my writing history and also my history in funeral service together. And I thought eulogies! Boom. I probably thought obituaries first, and then I thought eulogies. So I did some research and it turns out, it's actually a thing online. There's several online businesses that cater to the funeral industry through eulogies. So I put two and two together and came up with Aubrey's Eulogies, and then I came up with Eulogies by Aubrey, and that's the one that I liked the best.
I've been writing been writing for Eulogies by Aubrey since March of 2019 and I absolutely love it. I love that it's all online (or on the phone if you prefer talking on the phone). I love that I'm able to stay at home while still doing my part in the funeral industry. It's where my passion is. I feel like my calling is there, and it's always been there my whole life. Maybe in another video I'll talk more about that, I don't know. I need to come up with a topic list or something to keep y'all interested in me. So we've been going on for over a year now. We're not showing any signs of stopping. I'm just really enjoying it.
So that's a little, shortened, condensed version of my history in funeral service and my writing career, if you want to call it that. Besides that, I'm a certified crematory operator, certified cremation arranger, have my certificate in burials at sea from New England Burials at Sea. Someday I might go back and get my funeral director's license, you never know, it could happen. But even if I did that, I would still keep this business. It's just a nice service to have; it would go nicely with that.
I do send out my business card and I email postcards to funeral homes in my area. I need to send some emails. I'm thinking of getting my name out there to some pet funeral homes. I don't think we have any around here. But maybe in California or something? I'll have to get online and look. I think that'd be nice too, because pets are our family too.
That's it for this video, I hope you enjoyed. Sorry there's two videos; my phone popped up a notification while I was filming and messed up my other video. I'll see you in my next vlog. I don't know what it's going to be about yet, but I'll see you then.