Hello friends and neighbors. We are in the midst of the holidays now, so I just wanted to drop a line and remind you that Eulogies by Aubrey is open on Christmas Day as well as New Year's.

In fact, my eulogy writing service operates 24/7/365. If you have experienced the loss of a loved one, have been tasked with writing their eulogy and need help getting all your thoughts organized, I am more than honored to assist you. Please let me know how I can help you in a message here, and I will be in touch with you shortly.

You can also check out my Eulogy Writing Service page and FAQ page for additional helpful information.

I know you write eulogies, but I need to create my loved one's obituary as well and don't know where to start. Can you help with that too?

I've gotten this question a few times, and the answer is...yes, absolutely! Actually, I offer a complimentary obit, upon request, with each eulogy order. No extra charges. So let that stress fall off your shoulders right now.

Just let me know in your initial contact email, or upon completing your eulogy order form, that you would also like an obit written. I may have a few additional basic questions I will need to ask you in order to complete your loved one's obit, but chances are I will have all info needed from the eulogy order form.

Don't let the stress of planning for your loved one's funeral coincide with the stress of getting their eulogy written as well as their obit. I'm here, and I'm more than honored, to help you out.

-Aubrey

How much do you charge for a eulogy, and are there any additional fees?
 
I charge a one-time fee of $225 for an approximately 1000(plus)-word eulogy. There are no additional fees and any revisions you require are included in this charge.
 
How do I pay and when?
 
I am able to accept all major cards as well as PayPal. I do request payment before I begin work on your eulogy, simply to protect against those few who would take advantage of the reverse process.
 
How long will it take for me to speak my eulogy?
 
Depending on how much information you provide, your finished eulogy will contain approximately 1000 words and should generally take between six and eight minutes to deliver. If you would prefer a longer or shorter eulogy, please let me know.

How long will it take for you to finish my eulogy?
 
I will work to complete your order and have it sent back to you within 48 hours. If you need it sooner or within a certain time frame, please let me know.
 
How will you get my completed eulogy to me?
 
I will send your eulogy to the email address that you provide me on the order form. I will send it as a message and also as an attachment so that you may print/utilize it at your convenience. If you do not receive your eulogy within 48 hours, please check your spam folder. It will be sent from eulogiesbyaubrey@gmail.com.

 Can I see one of your writing samples?
 
Yes. Click here to be taken to my Eulogy Examples page.

I've already written out parts of my eulogy, but need help putting it all together and making it sound good. Can you help with that?

Absolutely! Many of my clients already have all of their thoughts on paper and simply need me to make it "speech" worthy. If this is you, send me what you have, and I'll take it from there.

My loved one has not yet passed away, but it is imminent. I'm thinking of going ahead and starting the brainstorming process for their eulogy. Can you help?

Yes. It's actually a fairly common - and even smart, I would say - move to try and get your thoughts down (things that you would like represented in your eulogy) ahead of your loved one's passing. Just let me know if this is your situation, and I am more than willing to assist you every step of the way.

I have suffered the loss of a child. Are you still able to help?

Yes. Please note that the form on my Order page is generally for adult loss. If you have suffered miscarriage, infant or child loss, please let me know in a message here. I have a special eulogy order form for you that I will send to you.

I recently lost my pet and plan to hold a service in their memory. Would you be willing to write a eulogy for them?
 
I would be honored. Our pets are our family and losing any one of them would be the same as losing a family member. Let me know in a message here, and I will send you a separate order form.

At this time I cannot bring myself to fill out the eulogy order form. Can you still help?
 
Absolutely... I understand that there are times when grief knows no words. There is an art to writing quality work with little information, and I'm confident in my ability to do so. Fill out what you can of the order form, send it to me and I will let you know if any additional information is needed. Or if you are more comfortable, email me at eulogiesbyaubrey@gmail.com. If you prefer to speak with me by phone, please leave your number in your email and I will contact you as soon as possible.

I am not able to pay your fee right now, but I still need help with a eulogy. What can I do?

I am very aware that not everyone has the means to hire a professional writer to assist them with their eulogy, or even family or friends who are able to help. But I believe that every loved one who has passed on deserves a quality eulogy. So I offer anyone who needs it a free eulogy template. Click here for more information. If you have questions or are in need of further assistance, please do not hesitate to contact me.
 
What are your hours of operation?
 
I am available 24/7/365*. For nighttime orders and email inquiries, please expect a response from me no later than the very next morning.

*It is rare, but sometimes due to personal time constraints, I will need to step away from business for a short time. During these times, there will be a pop-up on my website letting you know, and you will still be able to contact me with any questions or concerns you have.
 
Can I request a refund?
 
I cannot provide a refund for a completed eulogy. However, if you have just paid and have decided not to use Eulogies by Aubrey, and in the case I have not already begun extensive work on your order, I would be happy to provide you with a full refund, no questions asked.

Remember to keep an eye on my FAQ page for updates as they appear. If you ever have any other questions for me, please do not hesitate to reach out. I am available 24/7/365.

-Aubrey

I am a wife, mother and Christ follower with dual passions for writing and death care. I have years of professional writing and editing experience, and have worked in both corporate and family-owned funeral homes in the DFW area. I am married to the love of my life, Austin, and together we share a beautiful daughter.

In 2017, I graduated from the Dallas Institute of Funeral Service, where I studied funeral directing, embalming and restorative art, counseling, grief psychology, composition and public speaking as it relates to funeral service. I hold certifications in cremation arrangement and operation (ICCFA), as well as burial at sea (NEBAS), and am also a guest writer for US Urns Online.

For any questions or thoughts you may have, feel free to reach out to me today.

-Aubrey

Our website recently underwent a little construction!

When navigating the new style of our eulogy service website, Eulogies by Aubrey, you'll notice that many things remain the same as they always have. The overall look and layout hasn't really changed that much. The main changes we've made are almost unnoticeable, but significant, all in an attempt to make the site more personal, personable, and user- friendly for those who are seeking help writing a eulogy for a loved one.

We've prioritized pages and tabs to minimize disarray and maximize user-ability, enhanced our Eulogy Resources page, updated links throughout our blog and made the overall interface easier for visitors to navigate and find what they need. Perhaps most importantly, we've updated our SEO in an effort to reach more of the people who really need our help.

So check it out and let us know what you think! We have already received comments and emails offering suggestions and other helpful info...so please feel free to share any tips and ideas that you have as well. Eulogies by Aubrey is still a young, growing business and we appreciate our readers' comments.

Fears over Coronavirus, implementation of social distancing, and other measures being put into place to combat further spread of the virus are affecting the funeral industry in unprecedented ways. While it may seem that everything is being closed, cancelled, or postponed (even funeral services), rest assured that Eulogies by Aubrey will remain open 24/7 in an effort to help in any way we can. We are able to do so by operating entirely online/by phone.

Are you trying to plan a funeral in the middle of COVID-19? Are you wanting to complete a eulogy for your loved one but are running low on time or energy? I want to help. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or concerns you may have.

Note: If during these uncertain times you are experiencing financial hardship, but you are still needing assistance writing a eulogy for your loved one, do not hesitate to reach out with your concerns. I believe that every loved one deserves a quality eulogy, no matter the circumstance, and I am here to help make that happen.

-Aubrey

Fears over Coronavirus, implementation of social distancing, and other measures being put into place to combat further spread of the virus are affecting the funeral industry in unprecedented ways. While it may seem that everything is being closed, cancelled, or postponed (even funeral services), rest assured that Eulogies by Aubrey will remain open 24/7 in an effort to help in any way we can. We are able to do so by operating entirely online/by phone.

Are you trying to plan a funeral in the middle of COVID-19? Are you wanting to complete a eulogy for your loved one but are running low on time or energy? I want to help. Please feel free to contact me with any questions or concerns you may have.

Note: If during these uncertain times you are experiencing financial hardship, but you are still needing assistance writing a eulogy for your loved one, do not hesitate to reach out with your concerns. I believe that every loved one deserves a quality eulogy, no matter the circumstance, and I am here to help make that happen.

Please take care,
Aubrey Bauer

BEGINNINGS
Born in 1945 and raised in the Bronx, New York, Lawrence Gordon Tesler felt his calling in the yet budding field of computer science while still a student in high school. After impressing a teacher with a complicated prime number algorithm, he enrolled in a computer class at Columbia University, where he essentially taught himself computer programming. Upon graduation from Stanford University in 1965, he worked various programming jobs before landing a spot with the Xerox Palo Alto Research Center. It was there at PARC that he was first began work on the Gypsy Word Processor, and also first began contemplating ideas on what the future of human-computer interaction would look like.

COPY & PASTE REVOLUTION
While at PARC- the same place that introduced the world to the computer mouse- Larry Tesler came up with an idea that would revolutionize computer programming (and everyday work and play for the layperson). That idea was Cut, Copy & Paste. Such a simple notion, but one of the many "little" things he developed to ensure easy user interface for all...and not just those who were formally educated in computer science. This "counterculture" idea was unheard of back in the '60s, but it was something that he would advocate for for the rest of his life.

NO MODES
To further develop a seamless user experience, Tesler also promoted and actively worked on the idea of a "modeless" computer system. Basically, he felt that the everyday user shouldn't have to switch in between modes or functions depending on what they were doing while computing. He was so passionate about modeless computing, in fact, that his official website is nomodes.com, as is his Twitter handle and even a license plate on his car at one point.

FURTHER WORK
After PARC, Tesler went on to work with Apple at the request of Steve Jobs. There he helped to develop many pioneering software programs, including Macintosh and QuickTime. Following his 17-year tenure there, he moved on to several other high-profile companies- Yahoo, Amazon and Stagecast.

DEATH
On February 16th, 2020, at the age of 74, Larry Tesler passed away at his home in San Fransisco. There is not very much information available surrounding his cause of death, nor whether he was buried or cremated. But his legacy lives on in the computer innovations that he pushed to bring to you and me.

You can learn more about Larry Tesler's life's works here.

-Aubrey

Quotes are amazing things. I love quotes. They provide you with a gist of what a book or article is about without having to actually read the whole thing. They provide comfort in times of sorrow, explanation where none other is to be found, solace in the midst of loneliness and just the right amount of disturbance whenever the situation calls for it. You can look up a quote for just about anything and any occasion, to help you through a hard time or to remind you just how far God has brought you in life.

QuOtEs!

Today is Valentine's Day, a day of love and affection for many. But I think it's also a day of sorrow, longing and deep reflection for perhaps even more...whether you've lost someone to death or to life (whoa). If you already know that you're going to be struggling with difficult feelings today, it's likely that this day used to mean something to you that it no longer can. So today, in the midst of all the unwarranted lovey-dovey-ness you're bound to encounter- whether at work, on social media, at the grocery store (a dozen roses for only $15!), or on TV when you're trying to relax at home after the day is over, please be sure to find some time for yourself.

Because you're not alone.

Make today a day that you place the focus on yourself. Practice some self love, whether that be taking a bubble bath, snuggling up with a blanket and a warm cup of tea, or listening to your favorite song over and over. Give your pet some extra love today. Buy yourself dinner (and maybe that dozen roses for only $15). Open your Bible and melt into the peace and true love that only God can provide.

And maybe read a couple of these quotes to help get your started.

Here are just 8 quotes that have resonated with me in one way or another throughout my life thus far. I hope they bless you as you read them, too, from your own perspective and in your own way. Links are included where I could find them so that you can read/listen to the sources too, if you want. We all understand words differently and take our own messages away from what we read or hear (especially on days like today), so with that in mind, let's begin.

-Aubrey

The recent tragic deaths of basketball star Kobe Bryant, his young daughter and seven others on board a helicopter that crashed has sent the world reeling. As funeral plans are being put into place for all those who died, today we're going to talk about celebrity deaths and how they affect us, even though we may never have met the person.

THE SHOCK FACTOR
 
Kobe Bryant, his young daughter Gianna, and seven others were killed when the helicopter they were riding in crashed into the side of a hill in Calabasas, California on January 26th. This news, when first reported, shocked old and young the whole world over. When I first heard about the crash, my first thought was actually "Fake news!" In retrospect, there was a bit of denial going on there, because I'd actually read the headline on a reputable news site.

Did you have a similar response when you learned the news? Whenever you receive unbelievable news like this, you may feel what seems like a "shock" go through your body. I know I do whenever I get news of a celebrity death, or anyone's death for that matter. The hair on the back of your neck may stand up, and if it's someone famous who's died, you will probably reach for your phone or the remote to get the very latest information. You'll want to share what you've just found out with others, so you'll probably call or text your family and friends to break the news. This way, in a sense, you'll be able to grieve together.

Case in point with Kobe Bryant's death. People my age grew up watching Kobe, seeing and hearing about his amazing feats on the basketball court. He's right up there in legendary status with Michael Jordan, Magic Johnson, Charles Barkley, and Shaquille O'Neal. People older than me who enjoy watching basketball most certainly recognized his talents on the court right away, and enjoyed watching him help take the Lakers to several NBA championships throughout his 20-year career with them. So naturally we're all feeling a sense of loss now that he's gone. To make our grief-work that much more intense, besides knowing how he died, we've got to process the fact that his child perished with him, and that he leaves behind a grieving widow and three other kids.

The same kind of shock was felt in 1977 when Elvis Presley died...fans were crying in the streets. And in 1997 when Princess Diana died. And in 2009 when Michael Jackson died. And in 2014 when Robin Williams died. The list goes on.

At first, you may feel silly for being sad over the death of someone you didn't even know. But really, it's more like they didn't know you. You knew them very well, even if just from film, pictures, or music. (There's definitely psychology behind this phenomenon, and you can read about it here.)
 
For instance, maybe this particular celebrity was your role model, and it was on your bucket list to get to meet them in person one day. That dream has now been taken away. Or maybe you did get to meet them once, and you’ve always felt that the two of you somehow clicked. Even if you’ve never met this person, you’ve claimed them as your favorite…you’ve watched them on TV or in movies, sang along with them to your favorite songs, and celebrated with them when they got married or welcomed new life into the world.

Or maybe you had a loved one who passed away a while ago, and it was they who were this celebrity's biggest fan. So now you're feeling remorse for them, since they can't themselves. Or maybe this particular famous person provided you with a sense of comfort when you were going through something difficult; maybe a certain interview they gave encouraged you in some way, or a certain song they sang made you feel like everything was going to be alright.

And besides personal emotions like these, there's the objective side of it all, too. Next to perhaps any charitable works they had going on, this person who's died is never going to do anything new again. Sure, we'll have videos and interviews and books and the like to remember them by. The world will have their legacy. But there will never be another novice, creative anything initiated by them, ever again. That kind of loss is a loss to humanity, and it's completely normal to be sad about it.

Finding Closure

When someone you personally knew and loved passes away, you may find closure by attending the funeral and saying your goodbyes. Likewise, if a celebrity death is affecting you more than you thought it would, honoring them in a similar way could help you process this new reality. For example, if there's going to be a public memorial service for this person, consider attending it if you can, or even watching it on TV from the comfort of your own home. (For the record, there will be a public memorial for Kobe Bryant and the eight others who died with him at Staples Center, Los Angeles on Monday, February 24th.)

Studies have shown that attending a funeral or memorial service, or even just watching it online or on TV, does actually bring us a sense of closure about what has just happened, especially if the death or deaths were traumatic. It also helps to kick-start the grieving process, which has a time table all its own and varies from person to person.

So if you've been grieving over the loss of Kobe Bryant, his daughter, and everyone else who was lost on board that helicopter, don't feel like you shouldn't...I'm sad about it, too. Instead, do yourself a favor and tune into the memorial. Or sign an online memorial book for him like this one. Go outside with some friends and play a game of bball in his memory. Any one of these rituals will help you say goodbye and move on with your life.

Grief felt over the death of a celebrity can be complex, and really goes deeper than I could ever talk about in a blog post. So here are a few articles that do a little more than just skim the surface:

www.rd.com/culture/why-we-get-sad-over-celebrity-deaths/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/bouncing-back/201601/3-reasons-we-mourn-celebrity-deaths

https://www.centerforloss.com/2017/01/grieving-death-celebrity/

Important note: Whenever a celebrity or anyone else you loved dies, it's important to stay mindful about how the situation is affecting you. If you find yourself thinking a little too much about the person, researching their life or death a little too much, or becoming a little bit obsessed over them (to the point that it's interrupting your day-to-day life), it may be time to reach out for some professional help in dealing with these feelings. There is absolutely no shame in doing so. If you don't want to go anywhere, or simply don't want anyone else to know that you're seeking this help, an online counseling service like TalkSpace may be of interest to you.

In closing, we'd like to know: What celebrity death has shocked you the most? How did you deal with the loss you felt as a result of it? Share your response in a comment below.

-Aubrey

Good morning everyone. My name is Samantha Briggs. Most of you here know me on a personal level, but if not, I am George’s daughter.
 
My dad, George Filman, was born on April 5th, 1935 to John and Martha Filman, my grandparents. He was a loving father to my brother Jesse and I, a doting grandfather to my children Max, Jill, and John, and a caring friend. Most importantly, my dad was a friend of God.
 
Dad grew up in Texas and spent a majority of his life in the western part of the state. At the young age of sixteen, he met and fell in love with a beautiful young lady named Mary. After only three weeks of dating, George and Mary decided to get married. Even back then, their relationship was criticized because they were so young. But, like most young people in love, they didn’t care what anyone else thought, and myself and my brother Jesse are living proof of that…! My mom and dad’s love story was truly one for the ages, and even though everyone said they wouldn’t last, they were blessed to share a happy, loving marriage that spanned 60 years. It brings me peace now to think that Dad is back with Mom, together again at last. No more pain, no more sadness and heartache, no more death.
 
Dad left high school to marry our mother, and served our country for four years in the United States Army. He was very proud to serve, and also very proud of his wife and the family they had created together. After getting out of the military, Dad was a railroad man for the rest of his life, and enjoyed a long and distinguished career of which Jesse and I heard many a magical story while growing up.
 
Over the past several days, I have been so blessed to hear so many of your stories about my dad. He had a love for his home state of Texas, but anyone who knew George Filman knew that the southwest held a special place in his heart as well. He loved to pack up his things and take a trip there whenever he got the chance. While he enjoyed traveling, if you knew my dad, you also knew that he was a very private man. He loved to take care of his family, but as someone who was quite introverted by nature, he also enjoyed solitude. He was not a church goer, and was never really one for organized religion. But he was very spiritual. He tended to his relationship with God on a daily basis and remained a devout follower of the Lord to his dying day.
 
While he did relish his alone time, there was nothing Dad loved more than to sit down with family and friends over a delicious plate of fried catfish. When you were with him, he was willing to talk about anything that was on your mind, and would listen intently and carefully to you without any judgement at all. That is a precious and rare thing to find in a friend these days. But that is exactly the type of man that he was. Dad was an avid reader of the Bible, and loved discussing the Word of God with anyone who would partake with him. Anyone who knew Dad knew too that he loved to fish. It was one of his favorite things to do in his alone time. And of course he cherished his old country tunes and gospel songs.
 
This past week has been a very trying time for my family, and I want to extend a very heartfelt thank you to everyone who has reached out to us. The messages, phone calls, and support we have received have all been noted, and it is all greatly appreciated. I want to thank Grace Baptist Church for taking care of us today as well as for all the love and support everyone here has shown us as we all prepare to say goodbye to Dad. It is the hardest thing in the world to say goodbye, but there is also great joy in knowing that it’s really only goodbye for now. Just for a little while. And just like Dad is now with Mom again, so we will see them both again one day very soon.
 
Thank you.